There’s something that happens when you step into the role of space holder.
At first, it feels like a calling, something you are drawn to, something that lights you up. You know you are to guide others, to facilitate transformation, to create a space where something deeper than words begins to move.
But what no one tells you is this:
- Holding space isn’t just leading – it’s about becoming a vessel.
- You are not just witnessing transformation – you are feeling it move through you.
- Every time you open a sacred space, you step into your own initiation.
And if you’re not prepared for it, it will shake you.
The Circle That Shifted Everything
Lately, I’ve felt something shifting in me. It’s not just the energy of the circles I hold. It’s me. I am expanding. My energy is stretching further. I’m going deeper. I can feel it.
On Friday, I held Circle.
The energy was potent.
People yawned, fidgeted, cried, reflected. They moved through layers of resistance, breakthrough and realisation. Some felt activated. Some felt raw.Some felt scared – even though they knew they needed be there.
And the next morning? I felt it. My body ached and I had a blood nose. The enrgy had move, and I had moved with it.
This is what happens when your capacity expands. Your field holds more. You go deeper. And your system has to adjust.
Because when you hold space at this level, you don’t just guide transformation, you become the transformation.
This is the part no one talks about. And this is the part that separates those who dabble in sacred work from those are truly called to it.
Why This Happens: The Unseen Work of a Space Holder
When you step into the role of facilitator, you are opening an energetic portal.
- People come in with unprocessed emotions, blockages and resistance.
- The space amplifies what’s hidden, bringing it to the surface.
- You become the witness, the alchemist, the guide.
And whether you ralise it or not, your body is also processing that energy.
Yawning and fidgeting in yoru group = The nervous system regulating deep energetic shifts.
Crying and emotional release = Old wounds surfacing to be cleared.
Feeling “too much” or fear = The ego resisting its own expansion.
Physical exhaustion or pain in you as a facilitator = The aftershock of moving energy through your field.
This is why so many healers burn out. Not becuase they aren’t strong enough – but because they don’t know how to care for themselves after holding space.
How to Protect Your Energy When Holding Deep Space
If you are stepping into the role of facilitator, healer or guide, you must learn how to close the energy properly – for yourself and for those in your space.
Before Circle
Set a clear energetic intention – you are holding, but not absorbing.
Call in protection – whether through visualisation, invocation or spiritual guides.
Ground yourself deeply – your energy must be anchored before you hold space for others.
After Circle
Cord narrowing instead of cord-cutting – release energy without creating abrupt separations.
Take a salt bath or shower to cleanse residual energy from your field.
Move your body – dance, stretch or shake off the energy that isn’t yours.
Drink lots of water – hydration helps flush energetic residue from your system.
oIf you’ve ever felt dreained, overwhelmed or physically affected after hold space, this is why. Your system is recalibrating and you must treat yourself with same reverence as those you guide.
The Next Level Of This Work: Becoming a True Initiate
Many people want to facilitate healing work. But few are willing to through the initiation that makes them a true space holder.
This is no longer about learning – it’s about embodying.
This is about knowing how to move energy without it depleting you.
This is about stepping into mastery, so you don’t get thrown every time the energy gets bigger.
This is exactly what we cultivate inside the Sacred Mystery School.
This isn’t just another course – it’s an initiation.
We begin at the Equinox when the energies of balance and initiation align.
Doors are open now.
If you are ready to step into your next level of energetic mastery, click here to step into the next level of mastery.
Your next level isn’t about doing more. It’s about becoming the vessel that holds it all with ease.
